I'm big on communication, so any questions you may have after reading, feel free to ask! Consider me an open book. I'm all about making sure all parties are comfortable and having a good time, so I don't mind getting to know each other a bit before we meet! :) Super easy to talk to, and understanding of preferences. If I contact you, but I'm not your preference, that's perfectly fine; good luck on your search! If I *am* your preference, however, then let me know and say hi! ;) As for my 'skills', if you'd like to know, I'm experienced at sex (I do make mutual pleasure a high priority), but I've been told I have a talent for my oral skills. ;) *Please* be willing to reciprocate. Thanks! :) In terms of kink, I identify as a "Sensual Soft Dom". Here's what those things mean to me: -I identify as sensual above anything else. It's why I chose 'sensualist' for the title option over anything else. Whether I'm participating in 'vanilla' play or 'kink' play, I am always sensual. I enjoy giving a nice, (especially if I'm having sex with someone the first time. It helps everyone relax), and I just like sensual sex. Note: sensual doesn't always have to mean soft and slow. It's about intimacy and chemistry, at least that's how I see it. -For 'soft', I mostly mean that I have a mello and laid-back disposition. I consider myself personable and I love talking to people (which is why I'm big on communication). I do my absolute best to avoid being rude (unless that's something a play-partner wants. Again, communication!). Plus, I'm physically soft too! If you like big guys/dad bods, or at least don't mind them, we might be a match! Don't let that fool you, I have a very physical job, so I'm also very sturdy! Lol -In terms of the Dom side, I also enjoy the power exchange that comes with the dynamic, and also enjoy the rougher forms of play that come with it. I can be strict, demeaning, and (very) rough/aggressive, or gentle but firm and guiding. I enjoy all aspects of being a Dom. Depending on the partner, this is the most negotiable side of my identity, as I don't mind putting it aside in favor of play more on the 'vanilla' side of things. Happy searching everyone!

My Ideal Person *important* for sex:
- I do *not* do sex in the dark. I am very visual and that is my preference.
- I *love* giving oral sex. It's a huge turn on for me. However, as big of a turn on it is, it does *NOT* get me hard. I enjoy doing it because it brings my sexual partner pleasure, and I'm very good at it. However, I need oral stimulation too. If you are not willing to reciprocate, this will *not* work.
- most importantly, I cannot *automatically* get hard *or* get hard on command. Believe me, I'd love to be able to do that, and maybe some guys can. I am not one of them, as much as I wish to be. Lol I am only saying this because I've ran into this expectation, and it's highly unpleasant and a huge turn-off. Foreplay is pretty much a must for me. Upside? I'm *VERY* good at it!

I don't think I'm being unreasonable, right? If any of these are a no-go for you, believe me, I understand. It's ok, and everyone has their preferences in what they're looking for! However, in that case, what you are seeking is elsewhere. If I contacted you and you read this and this pertains to you, just tell me 'no thank you' and I promise you there won't be a single problem. I'll wish you good luck and good day.

My Ideal Person in general: A woman who likes to have mutually pleasurable fun.

I love pictures/recording during sex. If you're ok with that, let me know. If not, no problem at all. I always respect other people's privacy. Let me emphasize that last part again, as some have expressed 'concern' over that. You not giving consent = *NO* video or pics. And that is not a problem. If you do give consent, they will also not be publicly shared *IN ANY WAY* without explicit consent. We are not children. I'm not here to make anyone uncomfortable. Tl;dr: NO means NO, and that is far from a problem. Again, communication is key!

I have many different physical traits that I'm attracted to, so there's nothing to mention in particular, but I DO mainly go for someone who's face I find attractive. (So please be willing to send face pics! ^.^) Odds are, If I reached out to you, you have some of those traits!

In terms of being with someone for longer periods of time, be it a relationship or a fwb-sort of situation, I value personality above all else!

What are your favorite musicians or bands?:
A7X and Metallica

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Spanking, Massage

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Willingness to freely discuss and try anything

Ever fantasized about having sex with a celebrity? Who? What turns you on about them?:
Sometimes, but again, no one specific, it's just about
finding them attractive for my own reasons.

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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